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Lessons from Spring in Tianjin

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Spring has come in Tianjin. Growing up in Phoenix, I never really understood the magic of a four season climate. My opinion could essentially be boiled down to: cold = bad, warm = good. Winters in Phoenix were mild, summers where simmering and full of adventure. But that was always it with living in the desert. The land visibly showed little change. Palm trees don’t turn orange and shed their leaves. (Thank God, how terrifying would that be if massive leaves just plummeted to the ground every autumn.

Since moving, first to Pacific Northwest and now here to Tianjin, the four seasons have been something I’ve totally relished. It’s this incredible visual barometer for where we are in the year. And Spring, well, spring is awesome. Winter starts out kind of nice and cozy. That being said, once the holidays are over, it‘s maddening as it lingers on and on. But when Spring comes… it’s sweet release. You forgot how amazing it is that leaves grow on trees. Magnolias and Cherry blossoms and all sort of other things start to bloom. It’s a celebration of life and colour. The whole world is telling you, Congratulations, you made it! Winter is over. In essence, spring is great 10/10 would recommend.

With Spring, also comes something else. The new school semester. For us, This semester has been substantially different than last. Namely in our day today schedule. It’s some of the busiest I’ve ever been in my life. About a few weeks in, I started spiral mentally. Feeling stressed and an overbearing blanket of not having enough time. This is coupled with a the fact that I sort of been mourning the concept of lost time back home in the US (or greater North America). Before coming to China there was a part of me that thought if I left China for 2.5 years the rest of the world would freeze and be waiting for me exactly the same when I got home. Over the Spring Festival, I was processing through that.

Now, at large it felt that my time, even here in China was being whisked away from me. It’s hard to explain the culture here. But, in America, time is a commodity. It’s something you’re paid for, something of great value. If you take someones time repeatedly, and especially without really asking it’s considered rude. But here, that’s just not the case. People don’t have a sense of ownership over their time, so they expect you to feel the same. In all aspects, academic, social, and vocational. You’ll find hours of your life whisked away without your permission. Culturally, there’s really nothing you can do about it. This will happen routinely, by multiple people. For a long time I found it really demeaning and inconsiderate. I would feel culturally backed into a corner, and disrespected as an individual. To be honest, I still feel like that sometimes, but I’m adjusting. And I’m learning to to take it less personally.

This adjustment culminated in an experience where I was coerced into an Ancient Chinese Medicine treatment. I’ll save you the details of how this came to be, it’s a long story. But, culturally, I wasn’t in a place where I could really refuse the offer. The person who offered me this treatment was socially higher than myself, and had made a point to emphasis that this was a traditional treatment that had been preserved for hundreds of years and was an important part of her culture. It was impossible to say to no to. Now, why would I say no, that sounds fun right? An interested and unique cultural experience. All those things are true, and in the end I’m glad I did it. But in the moment…. Not so much.

The treatment was five days long. Once a day I would go to a hotel room where I would spend the next three hours. The treatment would start with the Chinese medicine doctor examining my stomach. A lot was lost in translation but I’m pretty sure the treatment was centered around gut health. Afterwards my feet would soak in herbs for a certain amount of time, then I would like on my back, and there would be hot herbal bangs placed on my stomach, and legs. After the herbal bags were placed I would be covered with a blanket and left to sweat, after a while I would turn around and they’d do the same on my backside. When I was done I would go home. Did I mention there was a also a fast? Yes, I wasn’t allowed to eat solid food for 72 hours. I was given a broth to sip on three times a day. The last two days they gave me a Tupperware of pork to ration out for the day. This coincided with upcoming midterms meant that my days started at the crack of dawn and I was on the movie until about 10pm when I returned from my appointments. I was stressed and on the move constantly.

I was acting like this little greedy goblin, chiseling all the time out of my schedule. Trying to find when I could be free for 'me time’. Hoarding what little time I had left selfishly and ungraciously. I was in a CONSTANT rush. Not only physically, but mentally as well. No sooner had I finished with one thing, that I was on to the next. Consciously trying to minimize all transition times, hoping that would add up to some free time at the end of the day. By the days end I was too exhausted to do any of the things I wanted to spend my time on and just ended up vegetating for an hour.

I wasn’t spending this time on my writing, or doing anything creative. Which was the purpose in squirreling time away in the first place. Also, underneath it all, I was anxious. The claim others have on my time in China, makes me feel demeaned out of control. It’s not the intention, and this part of the culture will not be changing anytime soon. So, for the time being this is my problem more than it is theirs. Even worse, anytime someone asked for more time. Which happened frequently. A surprise work meeting after class, or staying an hour later after work, or class runs fifty minutes longer than usual. I found myself increasingly frustrated and insulted. In America, this is where I would politely put boundaries in my life. Say, excuse me, you’re behavior is really inappropriate, my shift ended an hour ago it’s really disrespectful for you to make me stay, unpaid, for this long discussing work matters.

But, surprise, I’m not in US. And the rules about respect aren’t the same. The rules about culture aren’t the same. If I were to do that, I would be the one being disrespectful. I’m in a new country with new rules, and as long as I live here, I have to learn how to play by them.

So, what do you do when massive chunks of time are claimed seven days a week. Not to mention that you’re going to have to fit in homework and studying somewhere in there… The answer came to me in the back of a cab. Actually, in the back of several cabs, and walking by a construction zone, and by my produce guy. 慢点儿, It’s a Chinese phrase that means, slow down. It’s sort of like, “Take it easy.” People have probably been telling me this since I got to China, but I never really heard it until now. Cabbies say it to you as you exit the car. At the market, my produce guy said it as he waved me off. Somehow it really affected me.

Slowing down in the literal sense, wasn’t an option. I still have to take my Chinese classes, take my business classes, go to work, study, do my homework. I still have to respect the wishes of certain influential Chinese mentors in my life. And most importantly I still have 24 hours in the day. My stingy attitude with time was not going to give me any more.

But still, the phrase stuck in my ear whenever it was said to me. Maybe I was just malnourished from all the fasting, but I couldn’t get it out of my head. This time of my life, I’m a stranger in a strange land. After taking my first midterm that week, I had the brain space to think about it for a moment. I realized, if I was going to survive this semester. A time seemingly without breaks, I was going to have to let go of the concept if my time. And for the time being live moment to moment. Accepting rest, when it came, and being willing

Thursday 12.17.20
Posted by Deanna Rule
 

Chinese National Day Travel Plans

 Seoul + Busan + Shanghai 

A year ago, Adam and I were new to China and were focused on day to day survival. Everything, on one level or another was new and/or terrifying. So, when the Chinese National Holiday arrived (a 7 day Chinese ‘4th of July’) we opted for staying in Tianjin. Acclimating to life in a new country was enough adventure for us at the time.

A year later, I am stoked to spend this National Holiday exploring more of Asia. This time we’re making our second trip to South Korea. We were in Seoul last spring and loved it so much, we wanted to come back. This time we’re spending the bulk of our trip in beautiful Busan. A coastal city in the south.

Here’s our basic itinerary.

We’ll fly into Seoul from Tianjin in the morning. (A quick hour and a half flight.) We’ll spend the day in Seoul. It’ll be Sunday so we’re most definitely hitting up Seoul’s vintage market. This was the absolute favorite thing we did last time we visited. Then we’ll spend the evening in Hongdae, probably eating Korean fried chicken and drinking beer. 

The next morning we’ll grab breakfast. Korean style toast topped with eggs ham and coleslaw. it’s delicious, and I’ve been dreaming about it for the last six months. After breakfast we’ll catch a train and head south towards Busan. Whether or not we’ll spend the cash on a bullet train, or go the slow route is still up for debate. Either way I’m stoked to see the Korean countryside.

Then, we’ll spend the next three days hanging out in Busan. I have a few things on my list. Like the colorful Gamcheon Village and the scenic hike around Taejongdae. When we were in Seoul the Leeum Samsung Museum of Art was one of my favorite art museum experiences ever, so we’re hoping to have another great experience at the Museum of Contemporary Art Busan. 

Most of all, I’m just stoked to feast on delicious Korean food and hang out by the beach. 

After three days in Busan we’ll fly back to China, with a 20 hour layover in Shanghai. Yes, 20 hours. We’re going to explore Shanghai for a day, get some shuteye and then back on the flight. This was an unexpected bonus location. But, after looking at alternate flight plans we felt, what the heck. Let’s go for it. 

After our little detour, we’ll arrive back in Tianjin on the morning of the 5th giving us the rest of the day to recover (if needed) before heading back to school/work the following day.

At least, that’s the plan so far. We’ll keep you updated. ;)

Thursday 09.19.19
Posted by Deanna Rule
 

Exploring the 798 Art Zone in Beijing

Coffee, Craft Beer & Murals

The Fall Semester is finally upon us. With school about to start Adam and I took the extra time to spend the day in Beijing exploring a new neighborhood. We decided to visit the 798 Art Zone. I didn’t know too much about this specific neighborhood before visiting. Only that it was an artistic hub filled with galleries, art museums, and home to a few iconic murals. (See Below)

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Beijing is a pretty grand city. With Tiananmen Square, the Forbidden City, and many more traditionally historical and cultural activities, it’s easy for an area like 798 to pass you by. This neighborhood offers a new sort of vision for China. When I walk through the forbidden city, I’m in awe of the history of China. It’s illustrious past. The craftsmanship and art. I can appreciate the beautiful Buddhist statues and solemn temples. These historical landmarks are wonderful, but don’t give me a feel for the current culture of China.

798 is a place for the vibrant and creative youth. It serves as great contrast to the ‘copy-paste’ style apartment communities and office buildings that are common here in China. The aesthetic is maximalist in nature. Brimming with color, thoughtful architecture and unbridled nature landscaping. It felt like an unplanned natural outpouring of Chinese creativity. It echoes a new era of Chinese style Capitalism, where young people are spending six dollars (US) on coffee drinks, using their the days to walk through art galleries, and their evenings drinking craft beer with their friends.

Here is where designers are creating thoughtful work, and combating the harsh stereotype of ‘Made in China’.

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I’ve spent most of the last year primarily uninterested in a personal future in China. But visiting a place like this made me feel like a future was more of possibility in. Overall, the neighborhood was enriching, and felt like a true creative hub. A place where someone interested in making things, could meet likeminded people, and establish a community. Clearly, I’m no expert after a few hours weaving through the streets. But I left feeling inspired and intrigued, and reinvigorated to explore more of China.

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Art isn’t the only thing to be found in this district. Boutique shops full of handmade goods line the streets. There are more coffee shops than I could count, each more beautiful than the last. Filling me with FOMO as it was literally impossible to visit each of them. There’s also a pretty big a craft beer scene on this side as town as well.

So much so that before heading back to downtown Beijing, Adam and I stopped by a local craft brewery we found online before visiting. I had an awesome Oolong Infused Beer and Adam a Raspberry Sour Beer. Both were delicious and if we had the time we definitely would have ordered another each.

Adam and I both left wishing we had more time to explore. We’ll definitely be back, and I for one, can’t wait!

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Thursday 08.29.19
Posted by Deanna Rule
 

A Trip to the Great Wall - In Which I Spend too Much Time Describing My Quest to Find an Avocado.

Note - this post was written some time ago. But, hey better late than never.

Oh hey there! I know it’s been while. It seems like moving to China is somehow like entering a time vortex. I’m genuinely in shock that as I write this it’s the third of November. I feel as if I blinked and October came and went.  

Well, it’s safe to say we’re accustomed to our lives in Tianjin. The main melody of our life goes something like, work, class, study, and repeat. Which, I’m not too upset about. Especially considering that my classmates have quickly turned into friends, my study partner is my husband, and my work is both fun and rewarding.

Anyways, a few weeks ago we took a trip to the great wall, and let me tell you. It was great. I’m sorry, I can’t help it. But seriously, it was an awesome experience. Not only because I got to stand on the Great Wall one of the wonders of the world, but also the company in which I stood with. Like I said, my classmates have become my friends.  

The day started off with waking up at the crack of dawn. Technically, it started the night before. When I found myself trying to pack lunch for the next day with limited resources. I decided to buy pre-made sandwiches from a local cafe stand and an avocado. The first thing I bought? The knife for the avocado. Now, mind you, a smart person would first check that the market had avocados before making an investment in the knife. I am no such person. Sure enough after I bought the knife I went to the little on campus produce market and they were all out of avocados.

It was well past dark and getting later. A smart person would cut their losses grab the sandwiches and get some rest. Because, they had a very early start the next day. I am no such person. I called my husband, informed of the situation and told him I was embarking on a journey to find an avocado. Why? Because I’d already bought the knife. There was one market that I knew of nearby so, I headed that way immediately. No luck. Then, I remembered passing another small produce market on the way home from one of our favourite western style restaurants. I thought I’d give that market a try. It was farther than I’d remembered, but I got there in a cool eight minutes. When I arrived. No avocados.  

Where were the avocados? Are they out of season? I didn’t think so. Was there an avocado emergency and they’d all been picked out by a local salad bar? Plausible but unlikely. How many times had I walked by any one of these markets lusting after avocados to satisfy my west coast sensibilities. Yet on this day of all days, in my hour of need. They were no where to be found. Feeling like I’d exhausted this direction, I decided to go back to school, and head the opposite direction on the same road. Ah-ha! A market. Literally a two-minute walk from campus. Wasted time set aside, I pulled out my phone and triumphantly bought the best looking avocado I could find, with a couple bananas to boot. Anyways, a delicious packed lunch secured, I was ready for the adventures of the next day.  

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The Great Wall was about three and a half hours by bus from the school. We all left together at the crack of dawn. Like many school trips we sat with our friends and we joyfully talked almost the full way there.  The great wall itself was fantastic. Beautiful, and huge! The hike was the hard part. I definitely wasn’t prepared for all the stairs. But, in the end, it was definitely worth it. To be able to look at the wall winding down through the mountain was so fascinating. The leaves were beginning to change and the air was crisp. At the top you could admire layering mountains as far as the eye could see.

We hiked for almost two hours and took a lunch break before heading back down to the bus. Let me tell you, the avocado was worth it.  ;)

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Thursday 01.31.19
Posted by Deanna Rule
 

A Day at the Museum

Note – This was written some time ago, but I am just getting around to posting it now! Please, enjoy. ;)

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Tianjin is a city that has a lot to offer. Last week we had the awesome experience of being guided by our new friend, Karen.

She took us to the Tianjin Art Museum and the Museum of Tianjin. We went to the Museum of Tianjin first, to explore some fascinating Chinese relics in addition to their current exhibit on Pompeii. The museum itself was a beautiful building with high ceilings and inspiring copper columns that gave the light a warm pinkish hue.  (See, first picture).

On the second floor we weaved our way through a room of ancient Chinese ceramics and paintings. At this moment much of the cultural relevance is lost on me, however I can still appreciate the aesthetic qualities, and pure beauty of the craft. Listening to Karen express which artifacts were created in what dynasty added a better understanding of the context and age of many of the pieces. Getting to see her personal favorites was also pretty cool.

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After admiring the artifacts we made our way to the Pompeii exhibit. Because we spent two weeks in Italy this summer, it was fun to see Italian culture with an eastern interpretation. The exhibit was pretty packed and although we were invited to the museum to see this exhibit specifically we spent less time walking through this area it than we did the historical Chinese wings.  

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After the first Museum, we went made our way across a beautiful courtyard with an enormous water feature and fountain. This block is home to three museums, and a performing arts theatre. We were going to the Tianjin Art Museum which was hosting a renaissance exhibit. (I suppose the day had somewhat of an unintentional Italian theme). The exhibit was nice, but similar to the first museum we found ourself more drawn to pieces of Chinese origin.

We winded our way through a large gallery devoted to devoted to contemporary Chinese painters and works of art. I found this area particularly fascinating, as the styles are different than what I’m used to seeing in museums at home. It’s especially interesting to take note that there are so many iconic symbols and colors that I wasn’t able to appreciate as the artists are influenced by their individual culture and subcultures. Regardless of this disconnect I still found myself energized and moved by the artwork.

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Overall the afternoon was an enriching experience as we attempt to understand more about Chinese culture. The first museum gave us a taste of Chinese history, and the second a window into Chinese artists in the here and now. I definitely look forward to returning to these museums as I learn more about the culture and language here in China.

Because it was such a nice day we decided it would be fun to ride our bikes home. So, we unlocked a few share bikes outside the museum and went on our way. I’ve ridden sharebikes plenty of times, and quite enjoy the freedom it allows me to move around the city. However, this was my first riding with a local. There were a few moments that got my heart rate up as we weaved through Tianjin traffic. Thankfully I was able to keep up and we made it home in one piece. Let’s just say my Chinese cultural lessons were not limited to the arts that day.

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Sunday 01.20.19
Posted by Deanna Rule
 

Getting Used to Life in Tianjin

So, far the most useful phrase I’ve learned is Wo hen e. I am very hungry.

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categories: Life Update
Monday 09.17.18
Posted by Deanna Rule
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Chinese Names and Kittiens in Cafes

Chinese Names and Cats in Cafes.

Monday, September 3rd

Today, we had our first (mostly) free day since our arrival. We registered for classes in the morning. Splitting them between, business and Mandarin 50/50. The atmosphere of the registration felt a little like a 1990’s Wall Street bullpen. People were waving their passports and speaking about seven different languages. It went on mostly without a hitch, except when we were asked for our Chinese names. We didn’t have any! Luckily we were able to finish the process, promising to come back later in the day with our names.

After registration, we sent Dr. Gao a quick message asking if he would be as kind as to name us. Half an hour later he responded with: Lu Ai De for Adam and Lu Dai An for me. The process of choosing a Chinese name is actually really interesting. He chose our family name, Lu, because it’s pronounced similarly as the name Rule. In addition to being a classical Chinese surname. According to Dr. Gao, the Chinese version of Shakespeare had the surname of Lu.

Adam’s first name, Ai De was chosen for a dual reason. One, because, it’s similar to Adam in sound, and because of its meaning. Ai, which means to love and De which means virtue. It's translated as someone who pursues virtue, a compliment from Dr. Gao. 

My name is Dai An. Which is essentially (Diane). Dai is the classical name in Chinese literature for the ingénue archetype in Chinese stories. Paired with the surname which is often associated with the classic Chinese literature, essentially means Classical Beauty. Again, another compliment from Doctor Gao. An alternate meaning for Dai is the pigment women use to fill in their eyebrows, but we’ll go with classical beauty. An, means peace or calm, which I think he chose mostly because it sounded very similar to my given name.

Anyways, after returning to the registration office and updating our information with our Chinese Names we had the rest of the day free. Which meant it was time for some exploring. But first, coffee. Espresso has been really hard to come by here in China. At least, espresso at the quality that you can find in the Western world. While walking home yesterday Adam and I spotted a café pretty close to school, so today we decided to scope it out. We retraced our steps and there it was! A cute place called BeanCat!

The interior decor was super trendy. The Americano I ordered was 22RMB. It’s standard pricing with an American conversion ($3.75USD) but expensive considering I can get around fourteen dumplings for the same price. But, honestly, it was so worth it. The quality was exactly what I needed. As an extra bonus, the café had kittens! Unfortunately, they were separated from the café by a glass wall, but they were still so cute to look at. The Wi-Fi was super fast, which is something we’re learning to quickly covet as the Wi-Fi at school is extremely slow.

It's great to find a place that feels a little familiar in this Eastern world! Even if the baristas didn't speak English, it was conforting to order my usual and sit and enjoy the company of my husband just like we would have back home! 

xx Lu Dai An

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Monday 09.03.18
Posted by Deanna Rule
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Our First Day in China

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Uh, hold the phone. My husband and I share a quick glance. Does this mean we will be teaching a class now? As in right now, less than 24 hrs after we arrived in China. And certainly with zero preparation whatsoever. Yes, yes it did.

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Saturday 09.01.18
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Coleseo & Forum

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Monday 07.09.18
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Monti

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Sunday 07.01.18
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